A few months ago a guy said to me, “You know, Angela, you don’t have a princess complex like a lot of women I know. My assistant has a princess complex and she thinks the whole world has to revolve around her. She feigns weakness just to get attention and expects all of us to save her. She gets cold and asks everyone in the office to change the temperature. She worries about her clothes and hair and jewelry. Everything has to be just right for her, but you’re not like that.” I smiled politely and said, “Thank you, I think.”
I know that he meant that entire interchange as a compliment, but it left me aching and empty and unknown. It felt like he was saying, “You know, I don’t have to worry about you. You’re a big girl and you can take care of yourself. Nobody has to walk you to your car at night. No one has to lay his coat over a puddle for you. I don’t have to hold the door for you or wait for you to order first. You’re not like that. You are strong and self-sufficient. You go with the flow. You’re practically one of the guys. Ol’ buddy, ol’ pal.”
Gross. I am strong, but not that strong. I get things done but wish someone would come along and save me from time to time. I like guys. I like to talk to them and interact with them. But I don’t want to be one of them. I want to be the girl and I want to be treated like the girl. Secretly, I guess I really want to be a princess.”
From: Do You Think I’m Beautiful by Angela Thomas
When did being a woman become a bad thing? Why is it bad to be in the “weaker sex”? Why is there so much pressure for women prove themselves to be like guys? Who decided that being sensitive, and “girlie” was such a negitive thing? Why does it feel like the only way to gain respect from guys is to be like them?
Got news, friends. Girls are not like guys. End of story. Some of us may like things that guys like, i.e. sports, however, that does not make us one of the guys. Any girl who you think of as one of the guys 8.5 times out of 10 will be repulsed at that idea. Girls do not, want to be treated as one of the guys. The girls you all are friends with were girls before they were ever your friends. We want to be treated as intelectual equals, but we are princesses damn it!
And girls, who ever told you that you had to be like guys to be loved was an idiot. Why do we allow ourselves to fall into the rut of trying to fell good enough to be liked by guys? We are made girls for a purpose. I’m sick of feeling like being a girl isn’t good enough and I know that I’m not the only one.
Therefore, I’m reclaiming femininity for the girls. Guys aren’t supposed to be that, so knock it off. It’s our job. We were made to be the women, you were made to be the men. It’s time we all got our heads on straight and quit with all this gender swapping crap.
Being a princess does not mean that the world revolves around you. It means, that you are treated with respect because you are the daughter of the most High King. Being a princess means demanding respect by being a Godly Woman, like we’re supposed to be, and demanding respect because God made us WOMEN.
Guys, you are princes. You are the sons of the Most High King. Start acting like princes. But not arrogant ones, be the Godly men you were created to be. The world is in so much need of Godly Men. And, yes, I know the world is in need of Godly Woman as well.
I want to be a Princess. I am a Princess damn it!